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Improve Your Communication Skills
By Gwendolyn E. Talbot, M.A.
One of the biggest
problems with audible pauses such as "um, ah, you know, ok, and
so forth," is that they tend to reduce the speaker's
credibility. They are just filler words and carry no
information. They are often used because the individual is
thinking about what he or she is going to say next. The
individual believes that something is better than a pause. These
"um, er, and ahs" interfere with the delivery of a message and
become annoying to the listener.
PAUSE
On the other hand, a
well-placed pause can enhance the effectiveness of the message
and give the listener time to process or reflect on the
information. Inflection and vocal variety also enhance the
message and convey significant information. Imagine trying to
use sarcasm without good vocal variety and inflection. It would
not make any sense.
Audible pauses and
over-used phrases can be eliminated. First, the individual has
to become aware that he or she is doing them. Awareness is
always the first step to correction and elimination of bad
habits.
A supportive
environment is extremely helpful to make the corrective process
motivating and pleasant for the speaker. These habits can be
eliminated when the improvement in speech is recognized by both
the speaker and listener in a supportive environment. A
Toastmasters Club is such an environment. To find one near you,
call 1 800 9WESPEAK (1 800 993-7732) or visit their web site:
http://www.toastmasters.org.
STUTTERING
Another annoying
speech pattern is stuttering or stammering. There are numerous
theories about stuttering, but no one knows what causes it. It
is a disorder of rhythm characterized by repetitions,
prolongations, or blocks which interrupt the normal rhythm of
speech. Everyone has some moments of dysfluency. The biggest
difference between normal dysfluency and stuttering is the way
it is perceived by the individual. Stutterers see the event as
something out of their control. Nonstutterers know that they
just need to concentrate and organize their thoughts to control
their momentary dysfluency. Just asking stutterers to slow down
their rate of speech is usually not helpful. The problem is more
complicated than that. Usually the services of a speech
pathologist are needed.
The interruption of
this behavior is the first area that needs to be addressed.
Increasing eye contact of the stutterer to the listener is
imperative. Good eye contact shows confidence, integrity, and is
a sign of respect to the listener. This is also a key to
improving self-confidence, the beginning of control and fluency.
Expressive
inflection of voice gives variety and emphasis to the spoken
word. One technique for increasing fluency is to exaggerate
inflection patterns.
ARTICULATION
It is important to
know how the articulators (lips, tongue, soft palate) are placed
to produce each sound, so that there is movement from one sound
to the next. Some exercises used for improvement of articulatory
movement and elocution are tongue twisters, nursery rhymes,
prayers, days of the week (said as many times as possible on one
breath), months of the year, alphabet, and counting. These
exercises are effective because they do not require thought to
repeat. Therefore, the individual can focus on a clear, smooth,
easy production of fluent speech with inflection and rhythm,
while controlling airflow.
The answer to
controlling stuttering is monitoring one's own speech,
organizing thoughts, taking control of breathing and
articulation, and pacing appropriately. However, the most
important ingredient for success is a motivated and willing
participant who will recognize that stuttering is a learned
behavior that can be changed. It takes effort, commitment, and
constant monitoring, but the stuttering behavior can be
eliminated.
_____Gwendolyn E. Talbot, M.A.,
C.C.C.-SLP, Speech-Language Pathologist, Speech Pathology
Consultant Services, P.C. (703)368-7357
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